Gerald's Story

Gerald was born in 1953 and lives in Newbridge, Gwent with his wife, Catherine    


What happened to me

Towards the end of 2008 I had 2 bleeds on my brain

Impact on family

My relation with my wife has changed in every way.  I had to finish work and so financially things are hard.  My children used to come for me for help and advice, but they no longer do that, which we all miss.  The children are now really protective of me.

Impact on me

I feel like a broken man.  I find everything an effort and get really frustrated.  I have no get up and go.  The benefits system has caused me huge stress and anxiety.  They don’t seem to get it and make it really difficult and confusing for people to claim.  They make me feel like I’m doing something wrong and that I should be back in work.  I would be if I possibly could be, believe me.


I have got to spend more time with my grandchildren than I would have if I’d been working and they really enjoy spending time with me, which makes me feel good about myself.

How Headway Cardiff has helped

If I didn’t have Headway once a week, I wouldn’t know what to do.  They’ve helped me realise I am not going to be the same person.  They have helped a lot as well with my benefit forms.

What the future holds

I now know I can’t work again, but I would love to be able to move down to my caravan in Tenby permanently.